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Big Brother Hate

There are very specific things I want to discuss today, and they’re specific to what’s been going on in the Big Brother 15 house. Half the house has been guilty of throwing all kinds of hate around, in a dangerous way, and the other half is a mix of those receiving that hate and those standing by and just watching. Wow, that’s pretty much what real life is like isn’t it?

How many real life people, on their own, actually walk up to a racist or bully or misogynist and do something about it? How many of us laugh at the same “jokes” when we’re watching The Family Guy or whatever discolored show we’re watching? But these BB15 houseguests showing us what they’re made of on the feeds are not following a script, but showing us who they are and who they hang out with in real life.

If in 2013 you surround yourself with people who laugh along with you when you throw around bigoted slurs, then when you get into the Big Brother house you’re going to throw around those same slurs. And you know what will happen? Most of the other houseguests won’t say a thing, though one or two may at some point, and the rest will either be hateful with you or be the recipient of your hate. Clearly people like Spencer and Aaryn and GinaMarie and Jeremy get laughs back home when they behave the way they’ve been behaving.

So what is a Big Brother fan to do with this kind of live feeds information? Certainly not bitch and moan and perpetuate more hate on social media and forums, nor harass CBS executives. These are the same people who awarded someone who made repeated homophobic comments, a sweet job and cushy seat repeatedly. If it ain’t broke, they ain’t fixing it.

If you really care about the level of hate that is being spewed on Big Brother 15, and if CBS does nothing about it in any expedited manner, then hit CBS where it hurts…in their pockets. Why should they do anything about it when they’re not “losing” anything? They didn’t intentionally cast people based on hate.

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If you honestly want to something done…send letters to the advertisers who buy Big Brother time slots, call the BBB or whoever you have to call and ask for your money back for your live feeds because you do not tolerate a company who promotes racism and bigotry. Or just wait and see how CBS handles this and know that you can spread the word on what’s going on without spreading more hate yourselves. If you really feel so strongly, you know there are strong ways to be heard.

Or like television-only viewers, debate whether or not Elissa is “technically” the sister of a “Big Brother Legend” or just another hot Reilly mess. It makes me sick that we’re all tied up in disgusting human trash on the feeds, instead of discussing how Nick thinks he’s the next Dr. Will and Aaryn truly wants to be the next Jordan. We should be talking more about WOAH what happened to Elissa’s face and when, and how David knows “water by heart”, and how sad I was about the losing Have-Not team. We should also be talking more about the fact that whoever is in the kitchen the most has the best vantage point in the house (um, like I had), and who that is this season.

Clearly what CBS televised last night was what most people “looking for a fun summer show” want to tune into…people like Jack Owens and his family. And there’s nothing wrong with Jack at all, or with his family, just a lot of things right if you think about it. Clearly what you see on the feeds are things you willingly pay for and watch, so you can’t have your cake and eat it too.

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If you’re just bitching about how horrible these HGs are and you’re not actually doing anything about it, then how are you any different from those people who just stand by and gossip but never stop the hate? Whether we like it or not, those people in the house are from the everyday we all live. And like it or not, we all have hate in us, so we shouldn’t be holier-than-thou about it. If you feel like nothing is being done then do something in a productive way that’s conducive to effecting change instead of just harassing people.

Always dishing,

Jun

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37 comments

  • Burke Hodgson. on July 1, 2013 at 9:57 pm said:

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    Wonderful blog, today Jun. I’m glad I’m not the only one who thinks the current BB crop is singularly missing any sort of moral compass — except Howard and Elissa. CBS will have to rely pretty heavily on DR chat this season since everything else is potty-mouth on toast — even Helen. These guys aren’t going to find fame on BB15 — more like infamous-ity. I wouldn’t hire any of them except maybe the aforementioned two.

  • Great points! I think many viewers just feel helpless, and think their little contribution won’t change anything. Same seems to happen around voting seasons….

  • scott whitmon on July 1, 2013 at 9:57 pm said:

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    Isnt it a bit early to see how CBS will deal with all of this ? Since last night’s episode was basically from events before of this happened . And while I think there are a lot of unlikable and vile people showing who they really are . Isn’t it “reality ” tv? These people spewing hate will have to face the public the moment they step out of that house . As a huge fan of the show and of you Junim not sure CBS should do anything more than perhapsa discaimer that they do not agreed with or support some if the statements made by houseguests.

  • GaYToR on July 1, 2013 at 9:58 pm said:

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    Another excellent blog from you Jun. Yes, calling the sponsors of the show gets action, both from AGP and from CBS. I haven’t called yet but I’m busy making a list of exact times and Feed #s I hear things on. And who. Since I have only had feeds since Saturday I am still matching faces to names.

    On to real life. Hope you had a great vacation last week. Guest Bloggers did a great job but You are the Queen of JunDishes. (I curtsy before you.)

    HugZ!

  • Anonymous on July 1, 2013 at 10:00 pm said:

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    I agree with your point of view on this. There will always be people that have no clue how to treat people. For some reason so many people these day think that any one who doesn’t think, feel believe the same way they do are wrong. I really don’t get this. Maybe their parents didn’t teach them to treat people the way they want to be treated. And that everyone is entitled to their opinions.
    Every year there is at least one asshole that thinks its ok to speak to and about people in a prejudice manner. I personally don’t feel like we should be blasting CBS for this. We all want new houseguests and drama and then complain about what kind of drama we get. In my opinion the houseguests that are the most vile will not be liked when they come out of the house and then they will have to deal with it. Karma is a bitch!

  • Great, great, GREAT points! If we want a better world, we have to take the first step!

    “We must be the change we want to see in the world.” -Gandhi

  • Haven’t really watched the feeds but rather read what you and other bloggers, whom I respect, write about the situation.

    My initial reaction to hitting the advertisers is…what if they all pulled their sponsorship? Are there others waiting in line for the opportunity? That could be the demise of BB. Am I willing to take that risk?

    BB fans are notorious for keeping ‘in touch’ with former house guests and not only because they like them. I am more than certain that those who have been garnering all this attention will receive that much more after the show but not the admiration they expect.

    That scenario alone gives me great satisfaction. I’m a cheap date 😉

  • as a long time fan of BB (all 14) I now am glad cbs decided to ban us Canadians from the live feeds and feel sorry for those who went to the trouble in order to view it.Curiosity had me watching the TV episodes….
    but after last nights episode, i HAVE NO INTEREST in seeing any more. Thanks Jun for showing that I am not alone in this . xxxx(4 Noah)

  • I sort of thought Tweeting about our disgust was doing something. Of course that’s me presuming that CBS has someone checking the pulse of fans, but I’m probably wrong on that :( …. But you’re right about the “slacktivism” epidemic. All most of us know how to do is complain about what we don’t like about the world. We almost never actually take action.

    And further… complaining about what the HGs are saying and doing is a part of the Big Brother experience. That’s just what happens, as you all know. This season (so far), it’s just about a way more touchy issue.

  • Lest we forget Candice talking about how “gay fucking America votes for the Gay bitch in the house” and how “He’s [Andy?] perpetuating his gay image” and other comments about the Gay agenda.

  • So correct and chock-full of wisdom as usual! This is a small slice of life, and hope they don’t edit it out….best to lay it all out there so discussions will abound everywhere! Shine a light on that darkness and maybe it will go away as people will be held accountable for their racial slurs. This season, so far, no one I’m really excited about yet – it’s fun when you’re rooting for someone…not feeling the fun yet. Perhaps too early to tell.

    • Jun Song on July 2, 2013 at 3:43 pm said:

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      It is indeed a small slice of life isn’t it Joyce? These people will definitely be held accountable when they get out, but unfortunately some sheep will follow them…

  • Thank you so much Jun! Again, you are right! If you don’t say or do anything, then you are a part of the problem. I guess I am just amazed that racism is still going on in some of our younger generation. I guess it will never go away. I will say, I’m 60 and have called people out on it, it is NEVER funny. I just don’t get it! That is the way i was raised….we are ALL equal for Gods sake! Really, I haven’t even heard the ” go cook some rice” before. It’s people like this that I wonder how they would act if this was directed toward them! My lord on BBCAN they were upset that someone was called a redneck…What would they do on this BB. I think they would ban together and call these people out.
    I would like to see CBS stop it, but I don’t think these people would change.
    Well, that’s my rant! I could go on and on….but I won’t. Thanks for letting me.

    • Jun Song on July 2, 2013 at 3:39 pm said:

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      It’s unfortunate that I have to agree with you Pat…I’m afraid it will never go away. I suppose it’s good and bad that it’s being exposed this way. It’s making us face the cold hard facts that bigotry is alive and well and hidden…but now shown on the feeds…

  • Perfect blog Jun. You hit so many nails right on the head. LOVE IT (as always). You always speak the truth & that in itself keeps me coming back to read your blog & tweets daily. Rock on!

    • Jun Song on July 2, 2013 at 3:33 pm said:

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      Thanks my dear! I always appreciate your feedback. Sadly, when it comes to bigotry, the reality is that it’s a reality. The important thing is that we recognize it and stand against it…

  • kcsmum on July 2, 2013 at 1:09 am said:

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    Haven’t watched the feeds since day 2. Didn’t watch the show last night. Last fall the NHL Hockey players broke my heart when they didn’t play. A lifelong hockey fan, my spirit was broken and when the debates and sticking points were settled, the NHL had last a supporter. I just couldn’t watch. Now this hot mess of a BB cast. I’ve watched every season, some more than once. Typically Didnt have feeds but have had them several times. I looked forward to the 100 days of BB all spring. But last night I couldn’t watch. I may go back to it – just not sure. But just like the hockey players, the BB execs have broken my spirit. Or maybe I’m just getting old.

    • Jun Song on July 2, 2013 at 3:31 pm said:

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      I’m hoping the house gets “cleaned up a bit” by the halfway mark…and the bad eggs are somewhat broken by the good eggs. Keep hope alive Kathy! It has nothing to do with your age…there are plenty of young people out there who are as upset about all the hate spewed in that house right now…

  • Great blog, I am just amazed at some of what we have seen, I try to find HG’s that I can support to watch on the feeds and then if I can’t. I take a break and go clean the house, read a book, play with my kitties.

    It just truely saddens me that these young people have so much hate in their lives and that their parents must have helped shape them in it, that they continue to spew these things.

    • Jun Song on July 2, 2013 at 3:30 pm said:

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      I applaud you for stepping away from the feeds :)

      I’m afraid the “youth” in the house is exactly what’s outside the house today…we all hope to “raise” our kids better but at some point they become adults and follow their own paths…

  • Biljana on July 2, 2013 at 8:37 am said:

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    I completely agree with almost everything you’ve said. You write about the importance of standing up to hateful remarks made by others, emphasizing that things we do not like can only be changed if we ourselves do something about it. This is true.

    However, in paragraph 7, you make the following comment: “We should be talking more about WOAH what happened to Elissa’s face and when…”

    How is making hurtful comments of one’s physical appearance any different from making hurtful comments about one’s sexual orientation, colour, race, and such? For those receiving either hate, there is no difference. All hurtful comments can dangerously affect the targeted individual’s psyche. I understand that Elissa had some surgery on her face (and thus it’s expected that some people will comment on her face), but this does not render her immune to hurtful comments.

    A couple nights ago, Jeremy bashed Elissa to David and Aaryn simply because of the way she looked. In fact, he went so far as to say something along the lines of ‘ugly people shouldn’t be alive’. This kind of commentary absolutely disgusts me. I can’t imagine how that entire discussion will make Elissa feel once she watches it. As for hate speech based on one’s colour, race, religion, sexual orientation, or ethnic origin, we must also productively do something that will help stop to bullying others simply because of their appearance.

    Despite this critique, this was a good read. Always enjoy reading what you have to say!

    Regards,

    Biljana

    • Jun Song on July 2, 2013 at 3:05 pm said:

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      Hi Biljana!

      Thank you for leaving your thoughts here. I agree Jeremy and the others’ bashing of Elissa is on a personal and very derogatory manner. I will defend myself though in saying “WOAH what happened to Elissa’s face” is not on that level, and in fact I don’t think there’s anything wrong with reacting to someone who’s had so much plastic surgery done to her face that she actually looks plastic.

      If you have such major surgery and put yourself on television, then you have to expect people will respond accordingly. My comment was not “hurtful” but just point-blank brutally honest. Like, woah, what DID she do to her face?!

      But there are far more important things to discuss this summer, and it has everything to do with race and gender and where society seems to be headed…and hair extensions and plastic surgery isn’t helping…sadly.

      Jun

  • Almost every HG has said nasty, vile, inappropriate things while in the BB house. Even our dear Jun has said horrible things (Robert’s daughter ring a bell?). It comes with the territory. These poor hamsters are locked up in a “house” for months with nothing to do. They have to vent and most tend to obsess over the other HGs (because that is the pressure cooker game that we all want). We want the HGs to breakdown, to make fools of themselves, to show us who they really are. Those of us that watch the feeds do so because we want to see real reality TV. Well, we get what we ask for. So let’s not bite the hand that feeds us.

    • Jun Song on July 2, 2013 at 10:44 pm said:

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      Hi R.C.

      The “poor hamsters” are paid to be lock up in a house for months, yes. It’s only been a week.

      I have never denied and only apologized to Robert and sincerely meant it to him, and others.

      Aside from what I said and Erika said and Alison and Robert said (yes everyone says vile things), we’re talking about a BB15 houseguests who are flaming bigots when they walked in the door.

      I do not consider reality television to be “feeding me”, but if it is feeding you then by all means don’t bite that hand. Continue to hold it as long as you want.

  • I love everything you write. Mostly I agree with you. I always REALLY look foward to your BB Power Rankings, but this year I haven’t seen anything yet. In fact, I haven’t seen anything new on Reality Nation in a couple weeks now. What’s going on? Are you still doing the rankings?

  • Ryan Strange on July 3, 2013 at 12:44 am said:

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    Hahah I truly don’t know why I’m getting so upset about the situation Jun. I just want to see regular show like the old day but your right, this is just a sliver of America.

  • Madison on July 4, 2013 at 5:53 am said:

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    A general immature group of 20-something-year olds must be dealt with swiftly. I signed the petition to expell Aaryn from the show, GinaMarie has gotten to her lowest point in her life without a job, Jeremy will probably taste his own medicine after the new HoH is crowned and hopefully when he flies back to Katy, Texas (just a reminder, also a residency of a Survivor Hantz), he will lose his boat sales job. I may be harsh, but the “High School Alliance” (my nickname of Jeremy, Aaryn, Spencer and GinaMarie) need consequences.

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