When I blog here on my site it’s always less than 1,000 words of free-writing using a topic inspired by my interactions with you, online. When I do my longer writing sometimes I spend up to three hours on just one paragraph, over the span of a few days, to fix it. I say fix and not edit, because my writing just feels broken to me sometimes. When I sound like I’m writing instead of reading more like I’d speak, I know I’m not being true to myself. I edit later, but up until then I’m just fixing, and sometimes fixing myself as a side effect.
I’m naturally dramatic so I’m naturally implying that I’m broken. I’m not really, but like I said this is free-writing. Writing is therapeutic to me.
I often get questions around my writing, in general and specifically around how and why. How to do it better and why I do it, and these are from new writers to experienced writers alike. I’m new at this, but I share my experiences because I learn from others’ too, and writing shouldn’t be a secret. My thoughts…
How to Write Better
Write every day. Go back and read it out loud as if it’s new to you, even if you’ve worked on it repeatedly. If you stop because something’s not right about it, then you’re on the right path. If it sounds like a Pulitzer your first read, then welcome to your personal diary. Be brutally honest with yourself about what feels wrong about your writing. Is it the placement of words and paragraphs or is it missing meat to bring it to life? If you can’t be honest with yourself, then you can’t fix it. Sometimes when I write I sound like I’m trying too hard, and usually I end up cutting an entire piece because I’m that honest with myself. For example, I don’t conjugate enough. I also noticed I’m sometimes repetitive in my writing, and not because I couldn’t focus but because I didn’t trust the reader to get my meaning the first time around. It’s something I catch and delete and continue I work on and it kills me to delete writing I spent time on, but I delete. Something better will come along in my writing mind. It’s okay to cut and paste writing somewhere else, to save for later, if you have issues with the delete button.
Why I Write
I used to say I write as an outlet, and that’s true but it’s generic. I also used to play the piano and sing, as outlets, but I don’t anymore compared to before. So what is it about writing over music for me? I don’t know, but I know when I play piano my mind will still wander towards words. Actions speak louder than words, but the action that words can cause is something incredible to me. It’s something that keeps me humble as a writer, despite my ego in other arenas. Although my language at home growing up was Korean, it’s English that fascinated me most and right away. I don’t write in the thousands of words in Korean or Dutch, but I do in English. I write because I love the English language. Why I write about certain topics is an entirely whole other blog.
Earlier this summer I published a handful of guest blogs here on the site, and what I was not looking for was perfect grammar or solid punctuation. I was looking for things that weren’t there yet, and that only you writer could know about. I wish I’d had more time to spend with all the writers I have “on hold” in my guest blogging queue, but I don’t unfortunately right now. I wish I had more time in my day to feel less rushed. Some days I put my panties on the wrong way. I hope this blog has helped some writers out there. I’m always down for reading revisions!
Oh, and I don’t apologize for bringing up my twisted panty story somehow eventually.