Jun Dishes

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Sriracha and Baby Guppies: Not a Recipe

My house is a mess. There’s a pile of laundry that needs to be folded and ironed but will be only be folded. Noah’s toys need to be pushed back to their places around the perimeter of the house. Our dining table is full of stuff from mail to Christmas ornaments and book and pampers (clean). The only actual dining-related thing on the table is a bottle of Sriracha because our Sriracha never really gets put away anyway. Long live Sriracha!

The kitchen needs a sweeping and tidying and the living room could use a vacuuming, yet here I am blogging. It’s my one time of day that’s not dedicated to housework or otherwise stay-at-home mommy duties. Oh, and then there’s our new aquarium that now houses four newly-born tiny baby guppies in addition to our fourteen other fish.

We have two black baby guppies  and two gray ones and we hope they all live! They’ve been hiding out in one particular plant and doing great. You can see one of the black baby guppies in the photo, with tiny little fins forming already!

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We’ve had our tank for about a week but it feels like it’s been longer. Thankfully there’s not much cleaning up after it I have to do, and when the time comes it’ll be my husband Davy’s job to handle it anyway. I have no interest in smelly slimy fish poop-cleaning.

I have enough cleaning to do as it is. The thing is, and here’s a confession, I HATE cleaning. I love having a clean house but I’m okay with having a messy house too, as long as I’m not having guests. What’s the point of having your own space if you can’t live in your own space for what it is?

My husband Davy’s always been the tidy one before he ever met me and after nearly three (WOW) years of marriage, I think he knows now that I hate to clean. So we have a cleaning lady, Margie, who comes to our house every other Tuesday and so every other Monday, Davy gets a little antsy. Every other Monday we go through a routine where Davy tidies up half the house and leaves the other half for me to tidy while he’s at work, so Margie can “better clean” the next day. Every other Monday I moan and huff and declare how much it sucks that I have clean my house before the cleaning lady comes, even if it makes sense to. I always clean my half of the house but I resent every minute of it and I let it be known.

Davy is a saint to have to deal with those Mondays.

Today’s a Tuesday but it’s not Margie Tuesday, yet when I finish this blog I’m going to go clean anyway. See?

Arrrggggghhhh!

Always dishing,

Jun

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14 comments

  • OkieChris on December 17, 2013 at 3:21 pm said:

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    Ugh I hate cleaning too. Rich is a saint. He cleans, does laundry, cooks. I help but, he’s the one that keeps it together.

    Cleaning before the cleaning ladies come every other Thursday baffles me but I do it anyway. Hahaha

    Chris

  • Would it help to know your not alone? I hate to clean too and when I had a cleaning lady, there was always cleaning before she got there. Crazy. A happy you is more important than a spotless table.

  • I always call myself “a stay at home mom” which (to me) means, my job is raising my kid. If she wants to play, I play. The dishes go undone. Shane can do them later.

    Next year she will be in all day kindergarten. My plan had always been to go back and work my coffee shop. Shane says to me “why not just stay home and clean?” And I ask, astounded, “like a housewife?” To me, there’s a difference between that and stay at home mom. I do realize I am alone in this thinking.

    My friends all think he is such a tortured soul. It works for us though lol

    • No no I totally get it! Ha!

      The housewife versus mom thing. I suppose the first yea in Belgium I was a stay-at-home wife and now I’m a stay-at-home mom. Except now there’s just more laundry. HAHAHAHA!

  • @catmeghan Meghan on December 17, 2013 at 6:10 pm said:

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    We are a lot alike in many ways, but this is one of the areas where we differ. I love cleaning. It’s therapeutic for me…neither of my parents were particularly clean or tidy so if I wanted something clean, I did it myself. Then it became a procrastination tool wrt homework. I can’t do my homework until my room is spotless, right?

    The other notable difference between us is driving. I love driving! If you guys ever visit, I’ll drive you around and make your bed, k?

    • OMG we’re alike AND you clean. You’re totally one-up on me woman! :) Seriously. I hate cleaning.

      The procrastination theory sounds interesting though…ha!

  • I hate cleaning too!.I like to have everything clean, but doing the actual work myself is a drag.Thankfully ,Roy doesnt bitch. He knows if he did, i would tell him to clean it himself..I do the cleaning because it needs to be done.I should do like the old days when i was single–blast some music,maybe smoke alittle and get into it.And kick hubs out of house while doing it so he doesnt say something like-you missed a spot..That would not go over good at all. lol.

    • Ha! Roy sounds awesome :)

      I think I made myself sound like I don’t clean at all (to some readers :) hahaha. I just hate doing it but I do it. I do! I swear!

  • I have a lady that comes to clean once a month, and I always do certain checks before she comes (toilets). My late hubby was just this side of being a neat freak. I’m am not, but over the years, I have come to learn if I just put things away when I’m done with them, it makes all the difference in the world. Mind you, I never had kids to handle as well. That makes everything different. The housework never goes away… with help or without. Noah will only be around to play with until he prefers his friends or girlfriends. Let that be your priority… without guilt. I certainly would.

    • The housework NEVER goes away and he’d rather I draw on the chalkboard with him than load the dishwasher, absolutely :)

      I don’t feel guilty about anything until someone tells me I should and even then I don’t. Ha! Thanks for sharing M!

  • Do not blast me on this but I feel you should keep a clean house and not complain about it. You have made the choice to be at home with your son and have spoken how hard your husband works to support this choice you made as a couple as the income suffers. How many women would love that option out here! So many have to work full-time and and come home to fit in cleaning around that while trying to fit in quality time with their kids with no choice involved just to get by. What is a little cleaning to make your husband comfortable in the equation (since you do not seem to mind as much) ? I do not think a stay it home mom should have to pay to have someone come in and clean their home – particularly one that is not a huge dwelling. That seems lazy to me and selfish on your part. Unless you are a princess and with loads of money and not in a working class family with a husband that seems to bust his hump so hard every day. Sorry just my opinion. Wonder if this will actually get posted or deleted.

    • I can be lazy and selfish just like most normal people haha! So I agree with you 100%. I’m, however, not lazy and selfish in so many other areas that count more to me than having a clean house. Davy and I are planning to go without a cleaning lady in 2014, actually, since you mentioned it…a large part of why we had Margie was because I was writing towards a goal of becoming a published author. Writing takes a lot of hours and energy like any other job like stay-at-home mommyhood or working on the docks. So my husband and I decided together that we’d get some temporary help so I can finish writing. I didn’t think I had to include that in the blog but if you’re new then I understand you might not know everything you think you know.

      As to deleting comments, I only do that when there’s obscenities or threats in the comments themselves. You’ll realize at some point I don’t hide very much especially here on this site. That would defeat the purpose of dishing if I can’t take it. Thanks for your honesty despite your narrow-thinking in delivery.

      P.S. And this two-floor house is HUGE compared to any “huge” apartment I ever owned or rented in New York hahaha! It’s a huge dwelling to me! 😉

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