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My Secret To Getting Shit Done: I Expect To Be Disappointed by Nouns

There are too many blogs out there already telling you what I’m about to tell you. But I’ve been asked and so I’ll blog. But I’ll cut out all the cotton candy bullshit and tell you how I get shit done. Working hard and being resourceful and sacrificing free time to get shit done is all nice and a given but…

My secret to getting shit done is: I expect to be disappointed by nouns.

Yes.

You expect to be disappointed by nouns. Nouns? Yes, by people, animals, places, things, qualities, ideas, or actions, according to Merriam-Webster. Not all at once, and not all to the same degree, but you’d better expect it and plan for it, or you will lose more often than you win. This includes yourself. We are our own worst critics. But if you believe in your bones that you will be disappointed, then it’s easier to get to a place where you’re already thinking of alternatives and Plans B and C. That’s the key to getting shit done. If you set big goals, then you need big balls when disappointments start flying your way.

I swear I’m not a pessimist, although sometimes I might sound like one, but in fact I’m an eternal optimist. When events arise when my expectations are met and even exceeded, then Hallelujah there must be a God after all. There are brilliant and capable nouns out there but they’re indeed needles in that proverbial haystack. But those people and things below your level will always be there and if you act surprised or break when they disappoint you, then you won’t get shit done. Basically.

Maybe you’re opening a business and your printer didn’t meet one or more of your deadlines. Perhaps you were insulted by a representative of a national household brand name with nobody to defend you. And what if your idea or artwork was stolen by someone else, or you never got credit for hard work you did? Or you find out you’ve been cheated out of money that’s rightfully yours? And what if…

Who cares?! You should care. Nobody else has to. If actions speak louder than words then no blog can help you get shit done. It’s up to you to move on from disappointments and not take them personally.

In fact, Noah and I decided to demonstrate what this looks like.

OhWell

Last night having an “oh well” moment.

I’m not saying the world is doomed, although it’s spinning and jerking out of control sporadically, and I’m not saying I don’t believe in nouns. I love nouns! I care about nouns. I gave birth to a noun! I am a noun.

I’m just saying that the reality is, nouns will disappoint you. The better you deal with it, the better you get at getting more shit done. Wasting your time wallowing is the worst thing you could do. You don’t have to expect the unexpected. Just expect to be disappointed, and disappointed by nouns.

Then keep it moving.

Always dishing,

Jun

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20 comments

  • I love nouns! For any person you can know, and any place that you can go, and any thing that you can show, you know they’re nouns. A noun’s a special kind of word. It’s any name you’ve ever heard. I find it quite interesting. A noun’s a person, place or thing! #SchoolhouseRock #Grammarisnotyourgrandmaitsyourgrammar

  • Looks like Noah graduated, at age two, from an “uh oh” moment to an “oh well” moment in stride. Teaching the positive even with dissappointment IS keeping it moving. Another great lesson from Jun Song.

  • Yes, yes, yes and yes! Noah is so very lucky that you are teaching him this at a young age. Oh well with a contingency plan as backup. Much like tripping, fearing the possible outcome but righting oneself and landing feet first.

  • “We are our own worst critics. But if you believe in your bones that you will be disappointed, then it’s easier to get to a place where you’re already thinking of alternatives and Plans B and C. That’s the key to getting shit done. If you set big goals, then you need big balls when disappointments start flying your way.”

    I’m 60 years old, and it seems I’ve been dealing with some sort of crisis (mini or major) every few days or so since my hubby passed. I’ve survived his loss, plus two other family members since. Am currently going through the process of having a new home built, and trying to sell this one, I’m finally getting this. The good thing is, no crisis has yet to take me out. I can do this, and I’m never too old to learn a life’s lesson.

  • i give myself rewards and punishments. not big things but since my work is here at home, Im a fiber artist. i tell myself i cant start on any new project till i finish one, finish this chapter of my book im writing and then i can play farmtown for an hour. i dont cheat often and i manage to get a ton of shit done. lol

    my mother was schizophrenic and so nouns were always scary at best and rarely come through in the end, i worry for you and noah. hugs

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